You see, I understand you perfectly, and I feel your pain.

I know how difficult it is to choose a life partner.

This is probably the most important decision of your life.

It is the single decision that is capable of making or breaking you.

The choice of the wrong partner has fallen empires, killed kings, and put nations at war.

So you have to be extremely careful and calculative.

You can’t gamble your way into relationships and expect to be happy.

You can’t also make decisions based on wrong reasons and ideas and expect to find happiness.

To find a perfect partner and a happy relationship, you must look for certain things.

And to keep your marriage and relationship bubbling, you must keep doing certain things.

There’s no luck to this.

This is no casino or sports betting.

It is what you do with all intentionality.

Let me tell you a secret my friend, most marriages do not fail because of lack of love, or money, or anything like that.

In fact, one of the major reasons marriages fail is because people go in because they believe Ordinary Love would do it.

They believed love was enough.

They believed that once they were in love, they were good to go.

But that’s totally wrong.

It’s probably more wrong than saying the President is my biological mother.

Yes.

It’s that wrong.

How did I know?

Because I’ve spoken to too many couples, and singles.

So I have the data. Hard and raw. You better listen to me because I know what I’m saying.

Love is just what you need to start a relationship. It’s what will bring you together, and help you start the beautiful union.

Once you’re in, the love is not enough anymore.

You now need more to keep it going.

I see marriage like a pot of soup,

Love is the blended pepper and tomatoes that you need to cook it.

While the other things are the salt, seasoning, and other spices you need for that soup to be sweet and edible.

You can’t cook soup without the pepper mix, the same way you can’t start a relationship or get married without love.

But you can’t eat that soup without salt, Maggi, and other ingredients, it’ll not be sweet, right?

That’s the exact same way you can’t enjoy your marriage without these other things.

It’s just inevitable.

Good luck to whoever thinks just love will cut it for him/her.

But not you. Because you’re smart and you want to make the right decision.

Before I continue, let me tell you a short story:

A few months ago, I had a call with a lady, she had called to complain about her marriage.

She was crying terribly and could barely talk. It took hours to get her to calm down and speak.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone cry that much. It was more than losing a loved one.

Truth is the pain you feel when you’re in a bad marriage is probably more than when you lose a parent or a sibling.

Because with death, there’s a possibility of moving on and accepting the fact that the person is gone.

But when you’re in a bad marriage, it’s like you’re trapped, you’re not happy but you can’t leave easily especially when kids are involved. For every reason you have to leave, you’ll find 2 more reasons to not to.

You’ll feel helpless and hopeless.

You’ll want to die but can’t die.

You’ll keep having hope that it’ll be better one day. And that’s how you keep at it for months, years, and probably decades.

No going back, no moving forward. You’re stuck.

Back to my story.

When I got her to calm down and talk, the first thing I asked her was, “When was the last time you slept well at night?”

Guess what she said, she said she has never slept well in more than 6 months.

Why?

She cries herself to sleep daily. Wake up and continue again.

Were you surprised?

I wasn’t. From how much she cried on the call, it’s obvious crying has become her routine.

I could feel that she cries more than she talks. I know this from experience.

I’m sure you can relate too.

I can only imagine how bad her health had become in that 6 months.

You know what’s sad?

Her case is just one out of a million

There are a thousand people out there going through worse in their marriages,

You’re probably one of them.

This is why I decided to take it as my life mission to help as many people as I can

To help couples save their marriages

Help them rekindle the dying love in their homes and

Help singles make the right choice

This I’ve done over and over.

Results don’t lie, do they?