You’ve planned the venue. The colours. The food. The guest list.
But when was the last time you had a real, deep, honest conversation, not about the wedding, but about the marriage?
Premarital Counselling in Abuja and Online Across Nigeria.
Most Couples Spend More Time Planning the Wedding Than Preparing for the Marriage
And nobody tells you this until it’s too late.
You assume that because you love each other, the rest will work itself out.
But have you actually talked about:
- What happens when the honeymoon phase ends, and the real person shows up?
- How you’ll handle money: separately, jointly, who controls what?
- Whether you both actually want children, how many, and when?
- What are your expectations around intimacy, and what happens when one of you isn’t interested?
- How will you relate to each other’s families — especially when they interfere?
- What individual wounds are you each bringing into this marriage?
- What will you do when love doesn’t feel like enough?
These aren’t uncomfortable questions.
These are the questions that decide whether your marriage survives the first five years.
What We Cover Together:
The Conversations You’ve Been Avoiding
Money, sex, children, family, religion, roles — the topics that feel too heavy or too awkward to bring up on your own. I create a safe space where both of you can be honest without it turning into a fight.
Understanding Each Other’s Wiring
You both come into this marriage carrying the home you grew up in — the patterns, the wounds, the definitions of love you absorbed as children. We look at what each of you is bringing in so it doesn’t ambush you later.
Conflict Without Destruction
You will disagree. You will frustrate each other. The question isn’t whether conflict will happen — it’s whether you know how to move through it without tearing each other apart. I give you the tools before you need them.
Expectations vs Reality
Most marriage pain comes from unspoken expectations that crash into reality. We surface yours now — before they become resentment.
Building Your Foundation Intentionally
A great marriage doesn’t just happen. It’s built. We help you build yours with intention — with shared values, clear communication, and a vision for what you’re creating together.
This Is for You If:
- You’re engaged and want to go into your marriage with clarity, not just hope
- You’re dating seriously and considering marriage — you want to be sure
- You’ve been through a difficult relationship before and want to do this differently
- Your families have pushed you toward marriage, but you have doubts you haven’t voiced
- You want to have the real conversations before you say I do, not after
You don’t have to be in trouble to do premarital counselling.
The strongest marriages are built by people who prepared.
Why Work With Coach Hajara?
I didn’t have premarital counselling before my first engagement. I wish I had. The pain that followed taught me more about love and preparation than anything else in my life.
Today, I’ve been married for over 15 years, and I’ve spent years helping couples prepare well so they don’t have to learn the hard way.
I’m a certified relationship and marriage counsellor based in Abuja, working in person across the FCT and online with couples across Nigeria.
The Investment
First Consultation — Couples Online (90 min): ₦75,000 First Consultation — Couples In-Person, Abuja (2 hours): ₦100,000
Includes 1 week of chat support after your first session.
We have various packages according to your requirements, which will be determined after your first session.
Your marriage begins long before the wedding. Let’s make sure you’re ready.
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